Tuesday, April 03, 2007
Friendships break up---sometimes with a whimper, other times with a bang! Those that whimper simply dissolve from neglect, having run their natural course. Those that end with a bang are likely the result of an unexpected change or a dreadful betrayal.
Betrayal can be so painful. Our closest friends know our darkest secrets. They have the power to hurt us precisely because they know us so well. If this happens, we have a choice: we can slam the door shut and keep it locked with anger, or we can give ourelves space and time to cool off. Time washes away anger, heals deep hurts, and keeps us healthy.
It is possible to genuinely forgive someone who has betrayed us. In fact, I've found in my own life that when I've fully forgiven someone, I've gained tremendous insight about myself and others, and I've become more understanding of human nature. Compassion has increased my ability to forgive by leaps and bounds.
Remember, when we forgive those who betray us, we are doing it for oruselves, to take care of ourselves. Wen we refuse to forgive, we continue to hurt ourselves. We are letting the one who betrayed us keep control of our emotions and actions. When we let go and truly forgive, weare free once again.
meditation: A Time for Mending